It’s Monday, December 20, and I am exhausted. My youngest child, 17 months old, is snuggled tightly against my breast while I rock her and sing to her before laying her in her crib to sleep.
Because it is near Christmas, I decide to sing “Silent Night.” She places her tiny hand on my throat to feel the vibrations of the notes as they leave my vocal cords. As an alto (though my college voice professor would disagree) the range is my most comfortable. I sing a few verses, then start over because I don’t know any more.
As I reprise the first verse, tears creep to the edges of my eyes. It will be the last Christmas I’ll rock one of my babies. Next year, the baby I’m now rocking will be 2.5, and given her fierce independence, I doubt by then she’ll let me.
I lend my focus to the words of the carol.
Silent night, holy night.
All is calm, all is bright.
This rocking chair is the place where I rocked my very first baby five years ago, where I struggled and settled my way into motherhood. Its worn, nubby fabric cradled me in the hundreds of sacred hours of feeding, comforting, and bonding with the tiny soul I had created.
Round yon virgin, mother and child.
Holy infant, so tender and mild.
My first baby grew, and then came the second. Same chair, different house; same motions, a few new songs, a more seasoned mother. Then he, too, grew. I can’t believe after all that time, I couldn’t tell you the last day I rocked each of the boys. Maybe I wasn’t focused on it because I knew (hoped) we’d have one more.
And finally the third, our daughter. We haven’t had our final rock together yet, though I know it, too, will come. In the midst of sleep deprivation from teething, the stress of the holidays, and other things happening in our lives, I have often found myself longing for this last baby to be a bit older, just so I could rest at night a bit more.
And then, this night of December 20 whispered tenderly: Dear Mother, these might not be silent nights, but they are holy nights.
Sleep in heavenly peace.
Sleep in heavenly peace.
