Piano

Piano

by | Jan 8, 2024 | Perspectives, Writings

I don’t know what made me do it.


It could have been my emotions running high from the difficult interaction I had at work that day. Maybe it was watching (really watching) my 6-year-old rehearse a piano piece from memory. 

I sat down at my 20-year-old electric keyboard and played a song in its entirety for the first time in nearly seven years.

I began taking piano lessons around age seven and continued them through college. In high school, I barely had time to practice because I was involved in so many other things, but I had a wonderful piano teacher, Mrs. Shannon, who allowed me to come to her once a month and practice on my own in between. We always worked on one classical piece and one fun piece, which kept me interested and playing. (Parents, if your older child wants to quit around this age, I highly suggest this as an alternative if you can swing it! Just. Keep. Playing.) In college, I was a music major for a year (Vocal Performance), and even after I changed majors, I still signed up for a piano course every semester just so I would keep up my skills. After college into my 20s and 30s, I had gone a year or two at most without playing, so this was by far the longest drought.

Over the last several years, I would get out the keyboard and set it up in a desperate attempt to give back to myself during some of the most challenging years of my life. Playing has always, always brought me joy. But rather than sit down to play, I would walk by it with a twinge of disgust as I noticed the dust settling onto the keys that never got played, resentful of its presence while I ran around taking care of small children and working multiple jobs teaching, tutoring, and copyediting while my spouse was working the longest hours of his career in medical residency.

This particular day, however, as if on autopilot, when I saw my son get up from the piano bench, I went to the coat closet and reached into the plastic bin that held my music. I hesitated for a second; What should I play? “Something easy,” a little voice told me. “Something you can play right here, right now.” So, I lifted the books of classical pieces and slipped out from under them a binder of pop music.

I braced myself for disappointment: What if it’s too hard now? What if I’ve lost it completely? I would be crushed.

I cautiously picked a simple, repetitive song with major chords and a pleasant tune. My fingertips rested delicately atop the glossy keys. I checked the song’s key and glanced at the sharps. My hands moved a bit clumsily through the piece, halting far too long between bars to find my place for the next phrase. But even as my transitions stumbled along, I felt my elbows drop, my body start to lean into and out of crescendos and pianissimos, my muscles and my soul recalling how good it felt to express themselves in this way.

I tried to sing the words as I played, but my throat kept catching. All I could think was, it’s still there, I’m still there.

I have no illusions that I’m going to begin playing every day, or that this will be the beginning of some remarkable musical revelation. (In fact, I’m sure the only reason I got through one whole song was because I had given all the kids an iPad.) But by playing the keyboard that day, I resurrected abilities that I thought had disappeared forever, rekindling a long-dormant spark of joy that comes from making music. My ability to play (not as well as I used to, but still!) and my love for music had indeed survived years of neglect amid phases of life where my own needs have often been last on the list.

I think this happens to many of us – after a certain age, we don’t think much about what brought us joy as kids because we are so focused on all the responsibilities of adulthood. We have to set aside hobbies and generally things we used to love to do, to build careers, serve as caregivers, or whatever else we have been called to do. It’s often accompanied by guilt and shame that we let that thing go, that we’ve never taken the time to restring that guitar, write that novel, practice that language, or play as much as we used to.

I have felt all these things. This is why I used to be so repulsed by the presence of the piano in the middle of a phase of life that did not allow me to sit at it because, by the time I could, I had absolutely nothing left to give. I imagined the critics: “You only have one life! Take the bull by the horns! You must MAKE the time!” And the often miss-contextualized “What will you do with your one wild and precious life?” from Mary Oliver. 

And then, a wise friend said recently: “Resting is not quitting. I can take a nap and my God-given assignment will still be waiting for me when I wake up.”(Thank you, Morgan.) And that very day I decided I was not going to beat myself up for these pauses anymore. 

We are only human, and there are a finite number of hours in a day, and life just doesn’t often afford us the privilege of reviving an old pastime. This is part of the organic ebb and flow of life, where in our youth the focus is generally more on ourselves, and as we get older our focus grows outward to include our inner circle of family and friends, our circles of professional influence, our greater purpose on earth, even society as a whole. It is not a moral failure to have to put a hobby aside; it is natural. And just because we must take a hiatus from something that we love does not mean we have quit, as my friend so sagely ascertained; those sparks that God (or whomever you believe a higher power to be) places in our souls from the time they are formed are a part of our assignment, and it will not be rescinded; it will be waiting for us when we are ready to return to it. You cannot miss your boat. 

So what I’m trying to do now is to simply pay attention when I feel the tug at my soul to do something I miss and love. In my case, it’s usually playing music and writing. If I can do something, I start small so that I can be successful: a simple song, or some stream-of-conscious morning pages. I allow myself to celebrate the muscle memory that still hasn’t faded, or the one line I wrote that sounds just right. And if I can’t do anything right then, or for months, or even years, I’m trying to be gentle with my only-human self about it. The love, the ability, and the same old joy are all still there. When I can steal a few precious moments for myself, even if it’s been a while, I know where to find them – they will be waiting for me. 

 

 

The T-Shirt Drawer

The T-Shirt Drawer

by | May 13, 2023 | Perspectives, Writings

During the Kon Mari tidying craze, I went through the shirts in my T-shirt drawer and got rid of the ones I never wore, or didn’t like, or that didn’t “spark joy.” I re-folded and arranged the survivors of the great purge, so they were standing in the drawer in neat columns. I’ve actually kept them this way.

Let me assure you that these rows of vertically-filed shirts that I decided to keep are not the cute athleisure ones with matching leggings and workout-to-brunch opportunities; they are mostly cotton, screen-printed, well-worn, kind of holey T-shirts. I wear them around the house, to sleep in, and when I decide don’t care who may see me looking like a college student with forehead wrinkles in Target.

My family and I are about to move, and it’s time to clean out closets and shelves before we pack. I’ve tried to re-evaluate what’s in that drawer. There are a lot of T-shirts in that drawer that could (should?) be donated, recycled, or thrown out, but I just can’t bring myself to do it. I have purged kids’ clothes and toys, kitchen items, and even other items of my own clothing, but I keep feeling emotionally attached to the entire drawer of T-shirts.

Some of them include:

Shirts from my undergraduate alma mater. The first T-shirt I ever bought on campus, for homecoming. Then there’s the one I bought when we went to a big bowl game, and the one I bought when I went back to teach there and needed something a little “nicer looking.”

One T-shirt from my Master’s alma mater. I have only one from those years, because I spent most of it abroad, where women don’t really wear these types of T-shirts. It represents the most transformative period of my life.

The Spanish National Team soccer jersey from 2008. It was the year they won the Eurocup and the year I left Spain to move back to the U.S.

A few T-shirts from the university where I spent five years getting my Ph.D. When I bought my first T-shirt after starting classes there, I remember being so proud to own it. How many hours did I spend reading, studying, and writing in those? Too many to count.

My husband’s college T-shirt. It’s been worn so soft and thin that it would probably tear down the side if you pulled it too hard. It has a hole near the bottom where he used to open beer bottles with it. Oh, college.

T-shirts from races. Some I ran while I was at the peak of my game, and some while I was trying to heal a broken heart.

A long-sleeved t-shirt from the place we honeymooned. A  slice of bliss before the real work of marriage.

Some shirts from each of the schools at which I’ve taught. There is at least one spirit shirt from each place, including one that I bought a few sizes up to accommodate my belly while pregnant with my second baby.

Shirts from my husband’s medical training institution. These were some of the most challenging years of our lives, and when we met some treasured friends.

The shirts, it turns out, are not just timeworn articles of clothing; they are artifacts of my adult life thus far. These garments have clothed me on long runs, while writing my dissertation, while teaching on spirit days, while breastfeeding babies, while packing and moving some twenty times, and in a million other moments both exceptional and ordinary. They are an opportunity to recall times and spaces long past, and pieces of myself that are still part of who I am today.

“Our things embody our sense of self-hood and identity still further, becoming external receptacles for our memories, relationships, and travels.”

— Christian Jarret

For thousands of years, possessions have been connected to personal identity, and scholars have been studying this phenomenon for over a century. If you’re into this kind of thing, see, for example, William James (1890), Eugene Rochberg-Halton (1984), Russell Belk (1988), and Cheryl Harris (1993). More recently, psychologist Christian Jarret produced a TED talk in 2016 called “Why are we so attached to our things?” in which he explores the connections we make between our possessions and our personal identity.

Basically, in spite of our best efforts not to assign deep meaning to material objects, our brains are wired otherwise. It begins in childhood, and as we grow into adulthood, “our things embody our sense of self-hood and identity still further, becoming external receptacles for our memories, relationships, and travels,” writes Jarret in “The Psychology of Stuff and Things” (2013). This is why we may see so much more than colorful fabrics when we open a closet or a dresser drawer; we see the patchwork of our lives and of ourselves.

Of course, people may not have such a strong attachment to clothing or possessions, depending on the million possible circumstances of their lives, the culture in which they live, the strength of their ego, and their assurance of their personal identity.  Jarrett explains: “How much we see our things as an extension of ourselves may depend in part on how confident we feel about who we are.” In my case, my life trajectory, values, and sense of self have been through so many iterations in the last twenty years that I do think the T-shirts in that drawer have greater meaning for me than if things had been more stagnant. These T-shirts are a literal record of my past, present, and future identities. Perhaps they are also a way to convey those identities to others, like a sports fan brandishing a jersey or a scarf to show their loyalty and right to belong.

Someday I’ll be dead and gone, and all my T-shirts and other possessions will eventually be gone, too. My existence will have been whittled down to a birth certificate, a death certificate, and the relationships I had with others. For right now, while I have to start detaching from one place to move to another, I’m letting these T-shirts and their other drawer-mates live out their twilight years to the fullest, holes and all. They remind me of who I am and where I’ve been. Who knows which ones may be added to the collection in years to come?

Yes, they are just T-shirts. But if you will excuse the pun, they are both holey and holy: holey, from clothing my body over many years of a lot of life; and holy, relics of the past, evidence of experiences and connections, vestments for a human body that lives and thinks and feels, and testaments of love given and received.

How to Live on an Island

How to Live on an Island

by | Oct 24, 2022 | Perspectives, Writings

For the last five years, I’ve lived on an island. 

It’s not the kind of island you might be imagining, with cerulean water, white sands, and resorts for miles; it’s a small barrier island off the upper Texas coast, with surf turned bluish-brown by the currents of the Mississippi and a more humble, unassuming character than the tropical places you see in magazines.

I was born here, and though I was raised primarily on the mainland, I spent summers playing on the island’s beaches, catching buckets of blue crabs and ice chests of speckled trout, and surfing its small, mushy swells. When I was a child I felt such a deep connection to the murky waves that I would say hello and goodbye to them each time I went to the beach, just to make sure they knew I loved them. 

My twenties took me as far away as Vermont, North Carolina, and Spain, and then came marriage and children and moves for careers that unexpectedly took us back to the same tiny Texas island where I had spent so much of my childhood. 

“Hello,” I couldn’t help but whisper to the water as I drove over the bridge to our new home. “I’ve come back.” 

So I’ve been living on an island, and I’ve learned that to live on one is quite different than spending a summer or stopping by for a visit. 

The island life is not so much one of traditional seasons, but rather one of endless summer interrupted briefly by hurricane season, tourist season, and a few weeks each of spring, fall, and winter. There are rolling waves of heat and humidity, ameliorated by daily breezes that awaken the palm fronds and blow ethereal clouds of sand across the roads. The most magical time of all is in late September and early October, when the tourists have gone home and the sun isn’t quite so harsh. The beaches suddenly seem endless, the air is buoyant, and we all breathe a collective sigh of relief at the time and space we seem to have regained.  

Though our seasons are non-traditional, they require a certain grit to endure. Tourist season calls for both the patience of a saint and deep gratitude for the economic boost. Hurricane season demands vigilance, preparedness, humility, and resolve. For over a hundred years, this resilient little island has been battered by storms that will make you or break you, and probably both. In what seems to me to be the most apropos metaphor for the spirit of the island’s inhabitants, a large cemetery that lines the main boulevard becomes enveloped in bright orange and yellow flowers each year; even the island’s departed souls create beauty out of ashes.

When you least expect it, the island will give you a glimpse of its richness; you just have to keep your eyes and heart open to it.

It took me a long time to figure out what exactly it is that bonds the island’s inhabitants so resolutely. I’d toyed with the notions of a shared history, the experience of surviving a natural disaster, or a love for the beach; but none of these seemed entirely fitting. I’ve concluded that we are bonded to each other here because, quite simply, we all live on a strip of sand that is surrounded by the sea. Mother nature gently cradles our being and periodically threatens to swallow us whole. We can’t help but feel both privileged by the exclusivity of life on an island and humbled by its precariousness. It’s as if we all share the same knowledge that we belong to the waves and the sand, for better or for worse. 

The island is dotted with buried treasure, from the legendary bounty of the pirate Jean Lafitte to endangered Kemp’s Ridley sea turtle egg nests. There are unique birds that peek out from the brush of the nature preserves and gorgeous historic buildings that reside nonchalantly on otherwise nondescript streets. There are family-owned businesses whose guiding principles are still honesty and trustworthiness, where even in today’s world you can get a fair deal. Cemeteries full of famous figures, iconic surnames, and many of my own family members sit tucked behind businesses and grocery stores, a trove of quieted heartbeats that walked, built, and served the island. When you least expect it, the island will give you a glimpse of its richness; you just have to keep your eyes and heart open to it.

On seven brief miles of land, there are people from every corner of the globe, an homage to the city’s early-nineteenth-century role as a major immigration port second only to Ellis Island. Now, people come to live here for work in the hospitality industry, at the port, or for the cruise lines. They are here for medical treatment at a highly specialized medical center, or to research infectious diseases. They might be snowbirds or living out their retirement at the beach. Their families were among the first to settle the land, they were born here, they ended up here by fate, or they are just passing through. Like most places, the diversity of social classes and cultures will probably never blend enough to create an idyllic melting pot. Rather, the island hosts a mosaic of individual classes, races, and cultures that mostly manage to peacefully co-exist. While imperfect and messy up close, it does indeed create a beautiful piece of art.

A causeway connects the island to the mainland and all the amenities that come with the urban sprawl of a major city. Yet the longer you live here, the less appealing you find crossing the bridge. We really have almost everything we need, including the year-round entertainment of festivals, performances, quaint but vibrant nightlife, and of course, the beach. To an extent, living on the island makes it hard to relate to the fast-paced, keep-up-with-the-joneses culture so prevalent elsewhere.

If you do venture off the island, when you come home you are likely to experience “The Causeway Effect.” This locally-known phenomenon is the sensation that washes over you as you enter the incline of the southbound lanes over the bay. Your lungs instinctively fill with breath and then exhale with gusto; your shoulders and jaw relax; your heart does a barely-palpable skip, and your thoughts momentarily shift away from the awful complexities of the world. You can’t help but notice the way the sunlight looks like diamonds on the water, the azure sky, or the honor of having pelicans escort you home.

It’s been a privilege to live on this little island in the Gulf. As a local, sometimes I get caught up in the day-to-day hustle of work, children, and other responsibilities, and I forget about how unique my living situation is. I don’t go to the beach nearly as often as I should. But when I do, I always make sure to walk to where the sand is made soft by the sea, curl my toes into the shore, and tell the waves hello – so they know I still love them.

Dear Residency, from a Resident Wife

Dear Residency, from a Resident Wife

by | Jul 1, 2022 | Medical Family, Writings

Dear Four-Year, Anesthesiology Medical Residency,

Today, we say goodbye after four years together. The 1,460 days that my family and I have spent with you have been the hardest of our lives so far, in every possible way: professionally, physically, financially, emotionally, and spiritually. I often tell people that if I had known what I was signing up for, I likely wouldn’t have put my name down. But I did – the whole family did – and here we are.

Do you remember when we first met? I sure do.

In the three weeks before medical school graduation, I gave birth to our second child, a baby brother to our 19-month-old son. We packed our entire house to move with a newborn and a toddler. My husband and I took our newborn with us to clean out my classroom at my dream teaching job because our new location was too far for me to continue working there. Then our dog’s health rapidly declined after a lengthy illness, and we had to make the gut-wrenching decision to put him down. We had to let go of our elder son’s beloved nanny of a year and a half, our most reliable source of childcare and a precious influence and support during my early days of working motherhood. I got mastitis. We moved to a new house in a new town with our newborn and toddler and unpacked. Then came the graduation ceremony, after which we threw a giant party with family and friends. At three weeks postpartum, I was so sleep-deprived and physically exhausted during the party that I ended up sobbing in a back bedroom while I changed the baby. It was three weeks of whiplash for our hearts, minds, and bodies, but we couldn’t dwell on it because two weeks later orientation started, and on its heels July 1, the Medical New Year.

For the four years that followed, Jeff regularly worked 12-16 hour days and 80+ hour weeks. Sometimes he worked for 13 days straight. Now and then we would get him home at 5 or 6, but many days it was well after 7 or 8, after starting work at 6 am. He did somewhere around 200, 24-hour shifts. Three times, he stayed behind on emergency teams while I evacuated with the kids. For two months he lived away from us while he did rotations in Houston.

 

“I have no idea when this case will finish.”

“There is 0% chance I’m making it home for dinner/bedtime/Tball/etc.”

“Call to say goodnight?”

“I have to go back in.”

“Miss y’all.”

 

“Is Daddy home?”

“Is he asleep or awake?”

“Is Daddy coming home tonight?”

“Is Daddy still at work?”

And through sobs: “I miss Daddy.”

 

You were a roller coaster of pride and anxiety, elation and misery, joy and despair, punctuated by particular moments that I won’t soon forget:

Watching Jeff preop at the table or on our bed or in our closet. At first, it would take him hours (after working the usual 12-14 hour shift), but by the end, he could do it in 5 minutes.

The handful of times he came home and said he had to throw his shoes away because they got doused in blood or some other bodily fluids.

When he shaved his beloved beard to get fitted for his N-95 at the beginning of the pandemic.

Finding him asleep in the middle of the living room floor while trying to play with the kids after a 14-hour day, or after an overnight call.

The times he stripped his scrubs off in the garage and went straight to the shower because he had been in the OR for hours with Covid+ patients.

When I asked why he hadn’t left yet because I knew he wasn’t on call, and his response was a photo of a blood-soaked OR floor. He had stayed late to try to help save a mother that hemorrhaged over, and over, and over. (She made it.)

The first time he had to pronounce someone dead.

When he walked in the back door from working a 24-hour shift, having just learned his father had died.

The countless concerned glances Jeff and I gave one another from across the room, fearful that any scratchy throat or sniffly nose meant either he or we would become seriously ill or die. During the pandemic, Jeff took on immense personal risk of infection at work while the children and I accepted risk at home. We anxiously awaited life-saving vaccines to be approved, and I’ll never forget the relief I felt when he was finally able to be vaccinated, then me, then our children. We were likely to survive. Some medical residents and their families were not so fortunate.

 

You pushed him to the limit. He worked so hard, and he sacrificed so much.

And then, when he was home, he husband-ed and parented. He made dinner plates, cleaned the kitchen, packed lunches, bathed babies, and did bedtime. He brought donuts home after 24-hour call shifts so we could do something special together before he went to bed. He made time to go on date nights and to spend time with me. Sometimes he wouldn’t sleep that much after 24-hour calls so he could get up and spend time with us. On days off, many times he studied, read, made schedules, or even got called back in. He quietly got glowing reviews from colleagues and attendings, awards, and Chief. When I think of how proud I am of him, it feels as if my heart might burst.

Although I did not go through medical training at the hospital, I sure as hell went through it at home, with my own interminable hours and a workload no one human should have to shoulder. We had two kids under two, and then three kids three and under (and if you are wondering why in God’s name, it’s because we got married at 29 and put off starting a family while we both finished advanced degrees, not that we owe anyone an explanation.) I shouldered the weight of the household and babies so Jeff could make the most out of these four intense training years.

While Jeff trained, I solo-parented through stomach viruses, hand foot and mouth, colds, severe postpartum depression, holidays, entire holiday weekends, entire months when Jeff was on an away rotations, over 200 24-hour overnight calls, each followed by another 7-8 hours while Jeff slept in the closet after getting home (yes, we kept a twin mattress in our closet), pregnancy nausea and vomiting that lasted 38 weeks, and Jeff’s days off when he had to study or read for whatever exam was next because there is ALWAYS another exam. It was my job to maintain the routine, keep everyone entertained, manage the household, hold myself together, and try not to miss out on too much. I am equally proud of my fortitude during these years.

Many angels helped me along the way, including my parents, my mother-in-law, my cousin Lily, our saint of a babysitter Leighanne, my therapist, and friends who delivered meals, ginger ale, and wine right when you needed them. I am forever indebted to them for their support.

While you gave Jeff part of his medical education, I got an education of a different sort. I learned to ask for help and to accept it. I discovered how to create and express boundaries. Postpartum depression introduced me to the wonders of psychiatric medication and therapy, which both saved and changed my life. I re-discovered who I am after giving up a career I had so intertwined with my identity. I became skilled at zeroing in on exactly how I wanted to spend precious minutes of free and family time. I learned to manage being deeply resentful, immensely grateful, and cautiously hopeful, often at the same time. I got involved in our resident-spouse organization, Resiterns. As I supported other resident families by planning social events and connecting them with resources, I became a capable event planner, non-profit budgeter, leader of the board, fundraiser, networker, and more. Later, I went back to work teaching and tutoring part-time. I have always been independent, but I gained confidence in myself that I never thought possible. By the end of residency, I had found myself, maybe for the first time.

You gifted me sweet moments with just me and the kids, and nights alone to watch whatever I wanted on TV and take up the whole bed. You gave me a chance invest in myself and to start writing again. You offered opportunities to find simplicity and ease in pretty much anything. So many times, you stopped me in my tracks with beautiful, sacred moments that reminded me of how lucky I am.

And you gave me friends – the kind of friends that hold you together, that love you exactly as you are and where you are, and that show you the kind of human you want to be: Amy, Gaby, Leigh, Maria, Lauren, Marcela, Jessica, Holly, Evelyn, Stephanie, Tayra, Jarica, Judith, Erin, Nikki, Amanda, Jen, Maggie, Abril, Germaine, Vicki, Morgan, Sean, Nikita, Sommer and Craig, Shreya, Kelly. Probably the only reason I would go through this all over again would be for the friends.

We aren’t entirely done with medical training yet – there are boards to take and one more year of Chronic Pain fellowship – and to an extent, medicine has become just another thread in the tapestry of our lives. When Jeff holds my hand, he can’t help but slip his fingers over my wrist to feel my pulse. And when I am little spoon, his fingers dance down my spine feeling for epidural spaces and processes. Medicine is always with us.

But our particular chapter together has indeed come to a close. We leave with meager bank accounts and clearer values; crushing debt and hope for the future; extra grey hairs, wrinkles, and pounds, and gratitude for the miracle of being alive; a marriage that held on for dear life and came out the other side stronger; our three beautiful children, who have only known a life with medical school and residency and who are so excited to have our family unit together more often; and a treasure trove of friendships and memories that I will cherish always.

Goodbye, residency. Thank you for making my husband into the physician and man he is today. We are both leaving you as better people.

With gratitude,

Sarah

 

 

 

 

Sprinkles

Sprinkles

by | May 10, 2022 | Motherhood, Writings

Shit. I don’t have any rainbow sprinkles.
 
My child’s teacher had graciously texted me earlier in the day – “Are you doing anything for his birthday in class tomorrow? If not I will probably do something for him!” In all the planning for his birthday party that Saturday, I had completely forgotten about bringing cupcakes to school. “Yes, I’ll bring cupcakes!” I would not have time to grab them from the store or bakery the next morning because of my schedule, so I had cake mix and frosting delivered to my door and made them after the kids went to bed. I went to frost and decorate them with some rainbow or otherwise birthday-ish sprinkles – but there were none in the pantry.
 
My choices were remnants of Halloween, Christmas, Easter, Summer, and Valentine’s day sprinkles in those canisters that give you like 5 different kinds of sprinkles in one container. I don’t love any of these, I thought. None of them could really pass as “birthday sprinkles.” Ok – but what if I mix some of them?
 
I pulled what I had and started dumping them into a bowl. Black and orange jimmies from Halloween, lime green, white and blue ones with some white stars from summer, red and green dots from Christmas, and pink, purple, and white dots from Valentine’s Day. It didn’t look bad, actually. This would do.
 
I sprinkled them on top of each chocolate cupcake with chocolate frosting for my chocolate-loving boy, and felt satisfied with my very last-minute work. My child had birthday cupcakes and he would feel special. And all those little moments of buying special sprinkles, of stopping long enough to bake something, of enjoying a sprinkled cookie with the kids, had actually left me the perfect mixture with which to decorate these last-minute birthday cupcakes.
 
To all the parents trying their best – remember the sprinkles! It’s not the big-bang moments of parenting success that matter. It’s all the little moments throughout the year that will add up to just enough.

 

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